What do you think of when you think about self care? Camping, spa day, fishing, reading?
What are the emotions you feel when you think about self care? Shame, fear, loneliness, anxiety, anticipation, freedom? I was a full time stay at home mom for 16 years and I've felt all of those emotions when it comes to taking care of myself. I felt guilty that I couldn't just be ok. I felt shame that I didn't have infinite amounts of patience for my husband and children. I felt weak when I needed time for myself. However, I've learned that when I take care of myself everything is better. I'm more loving and more patient. I have something to give the people in my life. I'm no longer a taker in my relationships I have the energy to give. It took me a lot of experimenting to figure out what fills my energy bank. I've discovered that time alone where I can think through the things happening in my life is life-giving. Doing a fun project alone is restful to me. Gardening or reading a fun book can rejuvenate me. Now, I make sure to take the time I need for self care. It may be as simple as turning off the TV in the evening and enjoying a book instead or it could be a day that I get to do whatever I want. The beauty of self care is it's for you so you get to choose!
Just a reminder, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing . If "self care" becomes a way to run away from or cope with your life it's not truly self care. Self care is life giving and rejuvenates us to help is engage more fully in our lives and relationships.
Here are some things to think about:
What gives you life?
Do you love adventure, solitude or crowds?
How would your life be different if you took some time for yourself doing what you love?
What fills your tank to overflowing so that you can truly give in your relationships instead of take?
When are you going to set time aside to do it?
P.S. I'd love to hear what you do for self care!