You've wrestled. You've discussed. You've discovered your core values. You may have also discovered that living from your values is associated with pain, disappointment, heartache, fear and shame. Here's a few examples:
You value being in control and bringing order out of chaos but, you've been told that you're too much, too bossy and too controlling.
You value recognition & appreciation. You love to know that what you are doing is making a positive impact on the people around you but, you've been told that you're needy and insecure.
You value being persuasive, you want to make an impact with your words but, you've been told you exaggerate, you're dishonest and/or talk too much.
You value goal achievement but, you've been told that you're too driven, unfriendly and that all you care about is tasks.