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Good Grief!

Grief makes living on purpose extremely difficult. Did you know that grief is cumulative? Meaning if you experience grief and don't deal with it the next time you experience grief it adds water into that same grief bucket.

By the time we hit midlife many of us have experienced grief so many times that our grief bucket is overflowing. However, we often don't recognize it as grief. It comes out as anger, bitterness, anxiety, resentment, depression, moodiness and other expressions of emotional pain. When grief is recognized and processed in a healthy way it's amazing how much brain space is recovered. We can then use that extra brain space to move on and live with passion and purpose. I've always assumed that grief only happens when someone dies. Not true! Grief affects us on so many levels! We experience grief as children when we aren't noticed when we wish we had been or when we are bullied. We experience grief through heartbreak and unmet expectations in relationships. We experience grief when we lose a job we love or a pet we adored. We consistently experience grief in one form or another. In The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman they describe grief as "the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior." In other words something that has changed. I went through grief coaching with an amazing coach named Michelle Woodall http://www.heymichele.com . I was shocked at the things that I had never grieved.