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Be Brave And Be You!

My chest tightened. My heart rate sped up. I could feel the tension in my shoulders. It was my nemesis... anxiety. I tell myself "Be brave, press in to the challenge." I grew up in a home where tensions ran high most of the time. I learned how to cope by shutting down emotionally and trying my best to not cause more waves. I learned how to anticipate needs and perform well whatever the situation. When I went through The Pathmaker assessment with my coach, the process of owni

What's your Slimy Pit?

We all have slimy pits in our lives. Places and situations that we wish we'd never visited and people that were destructive and damaging in our lives. Slimy pits are nasty stinky situations that we'd really rather not think about and absolutely never revisit. I've had my fair share of slimy pits and I know from experience that until I clean them up the stink follows me wherever I go and affects every relationship and situation that I find myself in. My ability to confront and

What does a Coach do?

Are you wondering what coaching is all about or maybe if it's even a valuable investment for you? I thought I'd share a bit of my personal story of being coached in a few different areas of my life but first, let's define what coaching is and what it isn't. Coaching isn't discipleship. Discipleship is an intentional relationship designed to strengthen the spiritual life of the person being discipled. It's an opportunity to share and learn spiritual truths and develop and/or

Thinker or Feeler

How do you process information? In the Pathmaker created by Strategic People Development we discuss how people process information as a thinker or a feeler. Think of information being received as balloons. The information (balloons) are coming at you at an incredible rate of speed and how you receive them determines how you are able to process information. A feeler doesn't see the balloons coming. The balloons just appear all around them. As information is presented to them t

Liar Liar Pants on Fire!

Do you know anyone who stretches the truth as far as it will go? Someone that exaggerates and you feel like tries to talk you into things constantly. Chances are they relate to the world through their words and want to make in impact on others through the things the say. In"The Pathmaker" developed by Strategic People Development we call this impact style a persuader. A persuader is someone who gains value and worth by making an impact on others by using their words. When use

Where Do You Get Your Information?

Where do you gather or acquire information from? I'm not talking about what search engine you use or the amazing high IQ person you have in your life that knows everything. I'm talking about your internal process for gathering information. In "The Pathmaker" developed by Strategic People Development we talk about this in terms of Realist/Futurist. A realist gathers information from the past (reality) they use their senses (sight, sound, smell, taste, hearing) to gather proven

What Does Purpose Look Like?

There is a lot of talk these days about purpose. Personal purpose, business purpose, family purpose and I love them all! Without purpose we wander aimlessly through our lives with no direction and without personal fulfillment and passion. How sad is that? All this talk about purpose brings up a really good point. How do I define purpose and figure out what mine is? This is one of the things I really love about "The Pathmaker." Created by Strategic People Development it walks

Brave Anyway!

Fear is a crazy thing! Fear doesn't have to make any kind of sense or be rooted in any sort of truth for it to stop us in our tracks. Personally, I have a totally unrealistic fear of snakes. I've never been bitten by one and I've never been chased by one (unless you count being chased with one by a boy in middle school) and yet I'm still afraid that they will run me down and eat me alive. Here's the really crazy part... I not only have a fear of snakes in general I have a fe

What Makes a Value (Part 2)

You've wrestled. You've discussed. You've discovered your core values. You may have also discovered that living from your values is associated with pain, disappointment, heartache, fear and shame. Here's a few examples: You value being in control and bringing order out of chaos but, you've been told that you're too much, too bossy and too controlling. You value recognition & appreciation. You love to know that what you are doing is making a positive impact on the people aroun

What Makes a Value

When you think about what you value what pops into your mind? So often we don't take the time to really think about what we value and ironically what we value determines our every step. Value is defined as "a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life." Values are what we use to determine if we are succeeding or failing and they are what keep us motivated in our relationships, our work and our recreation. We live and die by our v

Living on the Edge

Have you ever wondered what makes some people yearn for adventure, adrenaline and danger? I have! I'm a safe person. I like risk only when I can see what the outcome will be. Which really isn't risky at all :) I have many family members that enjoy risk in various forms. They love the adventure and the uncertain outcomes. They love the thrill of not knowing what's going to happen next. I admire that... in other people. I don't want to live on the edge. That's not who I am but,

Relationships and Personal Identity

2020 has been quite the year so far! Quarantine has definitely been an interesting experience that has highlighted some very large differences between my husband and I. One being, he's an extrovert and likes to be surrounded by noise and activity. He usually has music playing in the background while talking on the phone AND he talks to people he's never met before! He's an amazing man! And... amazingly different from me!  I love peace and quiet. A great day for me is me cuddl

Breathe Deep

My chest tightened. My heart rate sped up. I could feel the tension in my shoulders. It was my nemesis... anxiety. "Breathe deep" I tell myself "Be brave, press in to the challenge." I grew up in a home where tensions ran high most of the time. I learned how to cope by shutting down emotionally and trying my best to not cause more waves. I learned how to anticipate needs and perform well whatever the situation. When I went through The Pathmaker assessment with my coach, the